sweet , Jesus , I swear that I love You .

Oh my . Oh my my my my my my my ! ! ! ! ! !
HAPPY !

I want to express how absolutely marvelous God is , and how happy I feel and how good this is . But , I'll just tell what happened . Except first , GOD IS GREAT ! OKAY !


So , basically , I've been silent for quite some time about how baby mama is not a nice person . But , finally after she accused my boyfriend of cheating on me , that was it . I am tired of keeping quiet about her . She is malicious and sneaky and a liar , people need to know that . I for one , will say something twice . Behind your back and to it . I will also hold everyone else in this world up to that standard , so if she can say these things to Johnathon then she should be able to back them up and say them to the world . HA , that's a laugh . BUT anyway . . .

There is a fabulous organisation called M . A . R . C . H . It is a mediation program to try and help parents who aren't together , work together . They have a lawyer sit in with you , and both parents just talk . The lawyer is there to regulate and educate (=]) . The program is great , they make sure that you are ONLY there to talk about the CHILD . Not current girlfriends or boyfriends or the past or anything like that . They know the law , so they can answer the legal questions . And they are not there to "buddy up" with either side . Which is refreshing because Missouri is 100,000% a mom state .

Well , a while ago baby mama (pre-child support) went and contacted them and signed up to do that . We got papers in the mail .

You see , she would tell us that Johnathon has to pay child support because he is the dad . [not true .] Or that , if Johnathon had partial custody , he'd still have to pay . [not true .] And that he has legal rights to Lua because his name is on the birth certificate . [not true .] And we told her these things were not true , but she went and talked to all the pissed off single moms that work at her daycare and they were like "yeah ! yeah it is !" or something . Well , she thought that these march people would prove her right , and help her get child support .

We get child support papers . 278 friggen dollars a month . And let me explain how that number came to be . As soon as baby mama decided that she was going to try and screw over Johnathon with child support , she threw everything away and screwed herself . Now , the COURTS decide how much Lua needs a month . They decide EVERYTHING . And she , well she's getting screwed , but I'm getting ahead of myself . Anyways , the courts decide a total amount of how much Lua should be costing . They find that out by adding the total income of each party together and figuring what Lua should cost . They split it in two . That is what each parent is responsible for . Then , they find out how many nights each parent has the child . You are given a certain percentage and as I'm sure you can figure out , pay accordingly .

Now , what started all this march stuff is that the 278 . . . that came to be because when the papers were filed , Johnathon got no credit for his visitation . So , now he's having to pay baby mama as if she had Lua full time , then keep her three of those seven days . And he explained it to her slowly and was sure to pronounce his words slowly , and she was like "THATS NOT TRUE ! BAHH ! YOU HAVE TO PAY THIS ! I NEED THIS MONEY ! WE CANT MAKE IT WITHOUT THIS MONEY !" so he said , I cannot afford to keep Lua , could you like help with diapers and food so that I can still keep her ? "NO !" So Johnathon called the march place and found out if they come to an agreement then it can be court ordered , they sign it there .

WONDERFUL !

So , he goes . The march thing was yesterday .

Now , obviously I wasn't there (which baby mama felt a need to stress . She said "Jenica isnt going ." and we're like , you moron , why would you even say that ?) so I do not know what happened in that room , only from Johnathons word .

Apparently , he went in there calm and mature , as he is about everything and so did she . They discussed the child support issue . He told her about how he's having to pay her half too . She said "oh yeah , I agree that's unfair . I'll help with food and stuff ." He said he got no credit for over night visits and the mediator said "that's weird , we can get that changed ." and told them that (despite what baby mama thinks and that tiny head of hers) the father has ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHTS because they aren't married . NO RIGHTS . If baby mama dies , Lua won't go to Johnathon (his words .) Baby mama said , that's not true . Mediator said "Yes , it is ." then explained that if baby mama agrees she can go to a lawyer for free and sign something that gives him his fatherly rights , then he'll get visitation credit on the child support papers . In that room , she agreed . Then , that would lower child support from 278 to 150 ! ! ! !

Which , baby mama didn't like the sound of so she chimed in "well , my income is way lower than what they have listed ! That needs to change too ." And before he knew the outcome , Johnathon agreed . And the mediator agreed . Baby mama asked why is was higher and she calculated some things and the mediater said "This is the standard . It is listed as if you worked 40 hours a week at minimum wage , because if you're not . . . you should be ." And baby mama thought it would raise child support , but guess what it LOWERS IT ! AND ALSO ! She's on food stamps and wick (which clearly means there are no baby expenses , so why do you need this money so bad ?) and the mediator said "they are going to have you pay that back when you recieve child support ."

Now , as you can clearly see , I am excited by this . Obviously , we can afford to keep Lua and our bills can get paid now . But whether or not this worked in our favour , it is THE FAIR way . When baby mama decided to screw over Johnathon like this , she threw everything out the window . It will be fair , decided by the courts . NOT her . Finally , because the only fair thing is obviously Johnathon oweing her for the rest of his life because he "ruined" hers . Baby . Anyways , they have a system . As the lawyer said , they follow it STRICTLY . So these things , they will be changed . Because it is the fricken justice system . Which , in the room , baby mama agreed to .

The meeting was pretty ridiculous because it was baby mama sitting there spineless getting told . She would try to be like "even if you had partial custody you'd still be paying child support" and the mediator would say "actually no ." and she would grow two inches shorter and try something else .

And Johnathon explained that he felt powerless as a dad and if he had to pay this he couldnt keep Lua . That he felt that his money was more important than his fatherhood . Baby mama didn't say anything .

Now , here's the catch . In that room baby mama agreed to every decision made . They had two more hours to go back to march and they could sign everything and get it started . She agreed that it was fair . As soon as they left she sends him a text "I'm getting that 278 and I don't give a f*ck . We can't survive without it ." Then she suggested that Johnathon get A SECOND JOB ! !

Now , Johnathon works at 11 dollars an hour 40-50 hours a week .
Baby mamma is at minimum wage 15-16 hours a week .

............................................... what ?

She refused to go back to march because she didn't get her way . And it sucks that she wont co-operate and it kind of got Johnathon down , but I told him that this is a great amazing thing .

We have the power to fight back .

If baby mama doesn't agree to do anything , then all Johnathon has to do is take her to court . The mediator said he could represent himself because it'll be obvious that he doesn't have money and all he has to do is prove that he has Lua three nights a week then they'll change it .
Pie .

She's throwing a temper tantrum . She sat there are googly-eyed at Johnathon the whole time agreeing to everything and couldn't even open her mouth to disagree when she did . She is so spineless . What does that teach Lua ? That it is certainly okay to be greedy and malicious and sneaky but don't be strong enough to stand up for yourself ? Please .

Lua will learn from her father how to do the right thing even when it seems like the world is against you . When it is hard and scary , you fight for what you believe in .

Johnathon is giving baby mama til the end of the week to do her part and if she doesn't , see you in court . There are countless witnesses , baby mama is a spinless coward so I don't see her lying in court if she couldn't even stand up for herself in front of ONE other person who was constantly on BOTH sides , and she even made it public on myspace .

It feels good . So good . Johnathon had a lawyer tell him what was right and what was wrong and how to fix it . It just so happens , that we were right and we were getting wronged and we can finally fix it . I knew God wouldn't allow this to happen .

We still have millions of fights to face with her .
I hate that Lua has to be a part of this .

and notice . . . Johnathon made it clear that his fatherhood would be forced absent with such a high child support . And the mediator made it clear that legally , he is nothing to Lua . Yet , baby mama doesn't want to change any of that . She is keeping Lua's father from him .

I have never in my life seen her make a decision based on Lua's best interest . That scares me . But thankfully , she tripped up . After thousands of "lets screw Johnathon over" decisions , she decided to take the wrong one and screwed herself over . It doesn't matter how bad she thinks Johnathon owes her or how bad she claims she needs his money . . . the court decides how much she gets . And we're seeing how absolutely evil she really is .

Johnathon and I feel though , that Lua will notice sooner than later how her mother is . We will never , ever put words in her head about her mom , but she'll notice . And she'll decide where she wants to be and I honestly don't think it is with her mother . I really don't .

But , I know this has gone on super long , it has just been one of the most amazing feelings in the world . Baby mama aside , I had lost faith in the state of missouri because of how insanely unfair it was . Turns out , they make mistakes and they aim to fix them , we just didn't know how .

I wish we could help other dad's out there . There is SO much we have learned through this and i think it's just the tip of the iceberg .